Boundaries: Why Do Some People Build Walls Around Themselves?

For some people, the term walls may bring up associations to do with the physical walls of a house or walls that divide one garden from in addition. However, the walls that this article will look into are not physical walls. They are not visible to the eye and sometime this doesn’ t beggarly that the influence they have is any different.

If on one side there are walls, on the other side there would be diddly; here one would feel wide yawning and completely ready. Boundaries are not the converse of walls. When one has strong boundaries there will not be the need to have walls and excitement wide unlocked, as one would if they had no boundaries, would rarely be experienced.

Two Experiences

So although the person with no boundaries will have walls, it is also likely that there will be moments when they feel wide unfastened. Alternating between the two will then be a part of life.

The walls give them the innervation of complete protection and without them they can feel almighty liable.

Walls

What walls do is create the perception of being safe and through having these, one will feel safe. The problem with having walls is that not only do they keep everyone out; they also keep one locked in. One ends up creating their own prison.

So whatever the positives are, they are instantly outweighed by the negatives. Logically it is clear and makes sense that walls are no good. But, as it is primarily our emotions and not logic that dictates one’ s life, logic does not make much of a difference here.

Consequences

And if one cuts themselves off from others through having walls, it is going to lead to all kinds of consequences. Relationships will suffer and as this happens one will also suffer. Isolation and feelings of being alone and cut off are also likely to materialize. Trust in others will not exist and without that relationships are not really possible.

Over even though one is trying to protect themselves from others by having walls, all that ends up happening is the creation of more pain.

What’ s Going On?

The natural human need, to connect and to be with others, is being violated here. So this can only really lead to pain and suffering. But in sequence for this to be the case something needs to have happened that is causing one to go against their own natural need, to connect and be with other human beings.

And in line to conceive why this may be, we need to look at how the individuality mind works and how recent experiences can shape how one sees the world.

The Identity Mind

How the individuality mind works can seem illogical at first. As this is seeing it doesn’ t function on what makes one happy or what is functional. It works through what is known and what is confidential is what is associated as being safe. Once something is interpreted to be safe though being familiar; the personality mind will pull onto it and won’ t want to let it go.

Now, this could be a way of seeing life and other people or a way that one behaves.

And what is classed as familiar can be functional and healthy or it can be abortive and unhealthy. When it is unpurposed, like in the occasion of building walls, it will inevitably create problems.

A Motive

So if one has built walls around themselves, it is for a motive. And the inducement is that it was for their own survival. At the time of their creation, they allowed one to stay safe and to cope with a post or situations.

At the time it could be described as positive and even a necessary thing. The pest is that over time, it has just lead to pain and separation from other people.

Patterns

Once this way of being has become associated as what is safe to the specification mind; life will press on to be perceived in the same way. What this part is that once one has had an experience or specific experiences that lead to these walls being created, it will become the idea of how life is.

One will then end up creating the same experiences all over again and the same patterns will be played out. So what may have happened with one person or a few people during one control or over a witting period of time, will become how life is and how everyone is.

Absolutes

And as the name mind works in absolutes, it will lift out anyone that does not fit the associations that it has formed around people. The experiences that created this temper have become what reality is and there is now no other way according to the mind.

People that are reverential of one’ s boundaries and aware of such things are unlikely to be attracted into one’ s life. Unless they are a doctor for quotation and people who one was to have an appointment to gaze.

Causes

The cause of these walls could have been through what happened to one as an adult. Or it could have been the arrangement of one’ s prime dotage. And as these traumatic experiences have not been looked at, one has ended up being controlled by them.

Boundary Thrust

Whether it was as an adult or as a child, it has lead to a boundary skirmish. Ones personal space was not serviceable and this means that one felt wide ajar and accessible. This would have lead to the specification mind creating associations and emotions / feelings being trapped in the body.

Awareness

And until these are dealt with in some way, it will be highly unlikely that one will acquiesce their walls to come down. Unless one can feel safe to be who they are and to be in their body; no thing can really change.

Now, for some it may be enough to just change the identity mind associations and this is what hypnotherapy or CBT would do, but for others going into the feelings may be needed. And this would require some old softie of therapy that does motility work.

The important thing is that one listens to themselves and sees what works and what doesn’ t. As to how long it will take, will depend on many factors: from how ready one is to let go and on the type of therapy that is used.